Speak up against Rape!

They wake up every day,
mainly to their dismay,
the pain it caused will never end,
They never had the strength to tell a friend,
how do they open up,
when their whole life they kept it shut,
how do they get the pain to subside,
when all they want to do is curl up and hide,
You say tell them after the incident,
that the whole thing is their fault,
They couldn’t even tell their mother about this default,
even when they escaped the crime,
They knew they would never regain the time.
You say to them,“My friends are all good men.
He would never do such a thing.
It’s your safety that I worry about,
And trouble your dress may bring.”
They said,“You shouldn’t have to tell us
To not get raped—avoid a man’s eyes.
You should tell your sons, your brother, your father,your friends,
To not rape and act civilized.”
There is a blank spot,
where educators need to question,
where parents need to advocate,
where sexual predators must shrink in fear.
Teach young women
to sharpen their best blade.
Teach young women
the fierceness of their fists.
Moreover teach every human,
To respect and reflect.

Rape culture is a term that was first used in the 1970s and is designed to show the ways in which society blames victims of sexual assault and also normalises sexual violence. 
First thing you need to know about ‘rape culture’ is that it allows us to live in a society where it is acceptable to teach girls how to ‘prevent’ sexual violence and tell them how to “not get raped” instead of telling rapists to just “NOT rape”.

Rape culture is telling women to be careful about what we wear, how we carry ourselves, where we walk, when you walk there, and with whom, where we do it, with whom we do it, and how many partners do we do it with. What we had to drink, how much we drink, was it someone we knew, did we make eye contact, did we say ‘no’ clearly enough and did anyone else hear it. It’s telling girls to think about who’s around when the delivery guy comes, to own a dog, to walk on lit street and hold our house keys in out hand, not to live on the ground floor, to get a roommate, to take up self-defence to always be alert and watch our backs and if we didn’t follow all the rules and we got raped – then it is OUR fault.. 

There are so many supposed ‘myths’ about rape and what is the main problem,here are few such myths.
Myth: If you didn’t fight back, you must not have thought it was that bad.
Fact: During a sexual assault, it’s extremely common to freeze. Your brain and body shuts down in shock, making it difficult to move, speak, or think.
Myth: People who are raped “ask for it” by the way they dress or act.
Fact: Rape is a crime of opportunity. Studies show that rapists choose victims based on their vulnerability, not on how sexy they appear or how flirtatious they are.
Myth: It’s not rape if you’ve had intercourse with the person before.
Fact: Just because you’ve previously consented to sex with someone doesn’t give them perpetual rights to your body. If your spouse, boyfriend, or lover forces sex against your will, it’s rape.

The world goes on and on about how progressive we our,allowing gay marriages,allowing live in,etc.
Yet we live in a world of rape culture and in that world people say things like: “Women accuse celebrities and athletes of rape all the time for money and attention.”
“The definition of rape is so loose these days, women can claim anything is rape and get away with it.” 
“If she was really raped she would have called the police”
This is why only about 40% of rapes are ever reported to the police, because victims know that if their claim becomes public, their every behaviour will be scrutinised they will be shamed for their sexual history, and they will be labeled for life.

Sexual violence is shockingly common in our society… For some maniacs ,Rape is a fantasy,it is a kink, however in reality, Rape isn’t just hard sexual intercourse,it is an act that not only destroys one’s confidence,pride,and body but also steals the victim of their soul ,image and respect in this society.
In simple words Rape Culture is just another word for our Society.

On a parting note, TEACH RAPISTS TO RESPECT,TEACH VICTIMS TO FORGET.
After all,there is no rapist who knows respect,and victims who forget are not victims anymore,but fighters.
Do not be afraid to speak up, it is time this society is taught a lesson .

-Sia Savla.